人际交往中应当避免的10大忌.docx

人际交往中应当避免的10大忌!译者： Quasi发表时间：2011-01-30浏览量：4080评论数：2挑错数：0交往，是社会生活中不可缺少的一部分。尽管我们每天都在做这件事，但是很多时候我们却没有注意到我们所做的事情带来的危害。 10 Things To Stop Doing in Your Relationships人际交往中应当避免的10大忌!Want to build positive relationships? Then make sure not to commit the following 10 things that disrupt relationships:想建立积极的人际关系吗？那么接下来这损害人际关系的10件事可千万别做。Giving hurtful comments. Are you hurting others by your lack of tact? You might think that you’re being helpful, but your intentions might have hurt the other party instead. Put yourself in others’ shoes first. If it’s not a comment you appreciate hearing yourself, then perhaps it’s not something others will appreciate either.1.说让人伤心的话。你有没有因为自己不够敏感而伤害到别人呢？你可能觉得自己是在帮助别人，但你的用意可能相反会伤害到他。你首先先站在他的角度想一想。如果那句话你自己都不想听，那么很有可能其他人也不愿意听。Giving solutions when the person is really looking for a listening ear. Probably an understatement: A lot of times what people want is a listening ear. Deep down, people have solutions to the problems they are facing – they are just looking for someone to share their frustrations with because they have had a long and hard day. I had a friend who would always butt in with suggestions whenever I shared my frustrations. Our conversations became stifling – in the end I stopped talking about them altogether because I wasn’t getting the refuge I wanted. Be more conscious of what the other party is looking for, and adjust accordingly to fit that.2.当别人只是想倾诉的时候提出建议。很可能是轻描淡写，但很多时候，人们想要的只是一只倾听的耳朵。内心深处，人们已经知道该如何解决他们面临的问题--在经历了又长又艰辛的一天后，他们只是想有人能够理解他们所遇到的种种不顺。我有个朋友，每当我在说我遇到的挫折时，他都打断我，然后提出他的建议。于是我们的对话变得令人窒息--最后我不得不停止说我心中的痛苦，因为我根本没有得到心中想要的慰藉。所以多想想对方真正想要的是什么，然后配合他就对了。Being judgmental; Thinking you are above others. No one likes to be judged or labeled. If you are constantly judging others for what they do/say, it might be good to reflect that upon yourself. Putting someone off doesn’t make someone a better person; it just makes him/her appear insecure. Humility is a timeless virtue that’s appreciated by everyone.3.妄加评论；妄自尊大。没人喜欢被别人评价或是被别人贴