我到底在害怕什么.doc

我到底在害怕什么 The one question that can make all the difference: “What am I really afraid of?” It is often said that roughly two things motivate people: interest and fear. 据说大约有两种东西可以激励人：兴趣和恐惧。 A lot of self-development programs and books deal with interest related topics: What is it that I really want in life? 许多自我发展的项目和书籍讨论的都是与兴趣有关的话题：生活中我想要的到底是什么？ What is my passion? 我对什么感兴趣？ What do I really-really want to do? 我想做的到底是什么？ What would I do if I’d win $50 million? 要是我有5千万我会做什么？ These are actually all very important questions, but just as important is to understand: What am I really afraid of? 实际上这些都是非常重要的问题，但是明白我真正害怕的是什么也一样重要。 So this has actually been the million dollar question for me in the last couple of years: 实际上这也是这几年来我认为最重要的问题： What am I really afraid of?” “我害怕的到底是什么？” This is a simple question that you should also ask yourself often. It is especially helpful to ask this question when youre at a crossroads and must decide how to proceed. This question will help you in situations where you need to decide if you dare to do something (start a new project, make a big change, have a child etc.) 这是个很简单的问题，你可以经常问问你自己。当你走到人生的岔路口，又必须决定走哪边时，用这个问题问自己会对你有好处。这种问题会在你害怕某些事情却又不得不做决定的时候给你帮助。 Remember, every time that you feel fear, ask yourself: 记住，每次你有所畏惧的时候，问问自己： “What am I really afraid of?” “我到底在害怕什么？” Fears are usually completely irrational. It is very easy to go the way of automatic decision making: 恐惧常常是没有理由的。很容易使我们自觉的做些决定： “I should do something (e.g. public speaking), Im really afraid to do it, I will not do it. “ 我应该做些什么（比如演讲） But when you stop the automatic decision making process and ask yourself “What am I really afraid of?” good things will happen: 但是当你不再这样自觉的做些决定之后，问问你自己“我到底在害怕什么？”，好事就会发生了： 1. You’ll actually get to know a lot more about yourself. 你会真正的了解你自己 2. You’ll understand that most of your fear is irrational, unlikely to happen. 你会明白你大部分时间的恐惧都是不理性的，不可能会发生的 3.You’ll be able to overcome your fear and make a conscious decision on whether you want to do some