美文诵读一二.doc

美文诵读一: Treat people with kindness If you treat people with kindness and respect, theyll be more flexible and responsive. We all want love and respect but sometimes we dont want to give love and respect, especially when we are at odds with someone and were feeling hurt and angry. If you want a better relationship with anyone Stroking is mandatory. If you look down on people and treat them badly, theyll retaliate and appear just as annoying and hostile as you expected. If, in contrast, you treat people with kindness and respect in spite of your anger, theyll nearly always be far more flexible and responsive to your feelings and point of view. Some people are resistant to this technique. I shouldnt have to be nice to him. He doesnt deserve it. is a common opinon. Others are Im just too angry to be nice to her, I cant think of anything positive to say about him, and Why should I be nice to her when shes treated me like this. But if you decide to convey genuine respect in the heat of battle, your efforts will be far more effective. How to use Stroking * Give the other person a genuine compliment. Comment on some positive quality or trait they have. * Let the other person know that you like, respect, or admire them, and value their friendship even though youre both feeling angry or disagreeing with each other right now. * Convey warmth and caring through your body language, showing that youre interested, open and receptive, as opposed to frowning, crossing your arms across your chest, and shaking your head in a judgemental way. But do you have to stroke people who really are jerks? Isnt it better to be honest and let people know what idiots they are? The answer is that you dont have to treat anyone with respect. You can respond to people any way you want to. It just depends on the kinds of relationships you want. The Power of Admiration Sometimes we all have to express negative feelings and tell people something that may upset them. Stroking is invaluabl