8个理由告诉你 第一次约会不必太紧张.doc

8个理由告诉你 第一次约会不必太紧张 Dating, as most humans who engage in it have no doubt observed, can be a major source of stress -- especially first dates. You can waste a shocking amount of time worrying about your?outfit, where youll meet up, when youll meet up and whether or not the date will go well. Here are eight reasons not to stress about the first date: 大多数约过会的人想必已经留意到，约会也是压力的一大来源，尤其是第一次约会。你会浪费大量的时间在担心你的穿着、见面地点、见面时间，以及约会是否顺利。这是关于初次约会不必紧张的8个理由： 1. You get to judge, too. 你也会评价对方。 Its very easy to waste a whole lot of time worrying about whether the person youre going on a date with will like you. But your precious hours are probably better spent thinking about whether you like your date. As Tom Hanks character tells his fictional son in Sleepless In Seattle, This is what single people do. They try other people on and see how they fit. Spend your first date evaluating whether the person sitting across from you seems like a well-tailored suit or more like a ill-fitting item thats better left on therack. 你会很容易把时间浪费在担忧“与你约会的人会不会喜欢你”这个问题上。但约会前的几小时可以更为有用，比如想想你会不会喜欢上你的约会对象。就像汤姆-汉克斯在电影《西雅图夜未眠》中饰演的角色对儿子说，“这就是单身人士做的事。他们约会对方，看看对方适不适合自己。” 初次约会时评价一下坐在你对面的那个人，看他是品行端庄的人还是邋遢不堪的人。 2. Theres no need to be elaborate. 没有必要精心安排。 The focus of your first meet-up is getting a feel for the other person. That means that lighthearted conversation is?paramount?-- not a super creative plan that involves multiple stops, top-tier restaurants and?hipster?underground bars. Just pick a coffee shop/bar/restaurant where you feel comfortable ... or make it really easy on yourself and make your date choose. 第一次见面的重点是试试对对方有没有感觉。这意味着轻松愉悦的谈话是最重要的，而不是一个富有创意的安排，比如去好几个地方、去顶级餐厅和地下酒吧等等。只要选一家你感觉舒服的咖啡店或酒吧或餐厅就可以，或者由你的约会对象和你自己随意做决定。 3. People are open to a lot of different date venues. 人们对约会场所表示很随意。 Judging from a new infographic from dating site HowAboutW, Americans are open to a wide variety of dating activities. If you feel like eating frozen yogurt, seeing an art exhibit, going bowling or drinking a glass of wine, cha