英语中如何说不.doc

　你是否觉得很难对他人提出的要求说“不”？你是不是经常为了对别人nice而牺牲了自己？放心吧，你不是一个人！ 　　很多人都不擅长拒绝，因为怕伤害对方的感情。自己明明有很多任务在身，可是当别人请求帮助时还是答应了，最后不得不牺牲自己的睡觉时间。事实上，如此勉强对自己没有好处，在必要的时候，我们应该学会说“不”！如果你不知道该怎么做，那么这里教给你七种简单的方式，要根据场合运用哦。 　　1. “I cant commit to this as I have other priorities at the moment.”　　“现在我还有其他重要事情，不能花时间在这事上。” 　　If you are too busy to engage in the request/offer, this will be applicable. This lets the person know your plate is full at the moment, so he/she should hold off on this as well as future requests. You can also share what youre working on so the person can understand better。　　如果你因为太忙而无法接受对方的请求，这句话就可以用上了。它能让对方知道你此刻还有很多事要做，他/她应该放弃这次求助，并且在接下来的这段时间也不再来打扰。你还可以告诉对方自己正在做什么，那样他/她能更好地理解。(have a full plate 在有限的时间里有好多事情要做) 　　2. “Nows not a good time as Im in the middle of something. How about we reconnect at X time?”　　“现在真不是个好时间，我正忙着呢。要不我们X点再联系吧？” 　　Its common to get sudden requests for help when you are in the middle of something. This method is a great way to (temporarily) hold off the request. First, you let the person know its not a good time as you are doing something. Secondly, you make known your desire to help by suggesting another time (at your convenience). This way, the person doesnt feel blown off。　　我们经常在很忙碌的时候接到突如其来的求助，那么这句话就可以起到很好的暂时性推辞的作用。首先，你让对方知道现在你正忙，时间不合适；其次，通过提出再次联系的时间让对方知道你是想帮忙的，这样别人才不会感觉被冷落了。(*blow sb. off 突然对某人很冷淡) 　　3. “Id love to do this, but …”　　“我是愿意做这事，但是……” 　　Its a gentle way of breaking no to the other party. Its encouraging as it lets the person know you like the idea (of course, only say this if you do like it) and theres nothing wrong about it.　　这是一种委婉拒绝他人的方式。这句话比较鼓舞人心，因为它让对方知道你愿意做这事(当然，只有当你真的愿意的时候才请这样说)，并且他/她的请求本身没有什么不对。 　　4. “Let me think about it first and Ill get back to you.”　　“让我先想一想吧，之后再给你答复。” 　　This is more like a “Maybe” than a straight out “No”. If you are interested but you dont want to say “yes” just yet, use this. If the person is sincere about the request, he/she will be more than happy to wait a short while. Specify a date / time-range