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怎样改掉犹豫不决的臭毛病 1. Test them against your values. 　　So many times we have to make decisions without a framework and no way to judge between two choices. When faced with a tricky decision it’s often a good idea to line up your choices and ask “Which one of these most honours the things that mean the most to me?” 　　The decision that’s most in line with the things that mean the most to you – your core values – will be the best decision for you. That might not be the simplest or most practical, but because it fits with who you are and what’s most important to you it will always be the best decision for you. 　　1.用自己的价值观来评定 　　很多次我们在两个选择之间徘徊，没有一个固定的构架或判断的方法来拿定主意。当我们面临一个需要机警判断的决定时，通常我们会有一个好主意那就是把所有的选择按重要与否排成一条线，然后问一下自己“这些选择中哪一个让我觉得最值？”你所做的决定是这条选择链里对你来说最重要的----你的核心价值观------将会是你最好的选择。这也许不是最简单的或者最现实的，但确实最适合你的。对你来说最重要的就是最好的选择。 　2. Trust your gut. 　　When I was growing up I used to love rainy Sunday afternoons watching Columbo, especially the bit at the end where he’d sidle up to the Bad Guy, say “Just one more thing” and then proceed to blow apart the bad guys alibi. Just brilliant. 　　What Columbo had bundles of was a great trust in his intuition. In every episode, from the very moment he first meets the bad guy, he knows ‘whodunnit’ – and he always trusts that. 　　So look at what your intuition tells you is the ‘right’ decision for you. Forget about all the “What if’s” and the myriad, tiny details – what is your gut telling you? Listen to your intuition, it knows what it’s talking about. 　　2.相信自己的直觉 　　在渐渐长大的岁月中我喜欢在下着雨的星期天的下午观看《神探哥伦布》，特别是放到最后他悄悄的走近坏人然后抓住他们说“还有一件事情”然后把犯罪者无力的辩解驳得体无完肤并道出他们的罪状。他看起来是那样充满智慧。他总是对他的直觉深信不疑。在每一个案子中，最初见到犯罪者时直觉告诉他“就是这个人”-----而他总是深信不疑。 　　那么看一下你的直觉告诉你哪个选择是“正确”的吧。忘掉那些“如果这样将会怎样”和无数的微小的细节-----你最本质的内心告诉你什么了？相信你的直觉，他跟你一样了解整件事情。 　3. It just doesn’t matter. 　　My decision between breakfast cereals wasn’t a biggie. Whichever one I chose, there were never going to be any huge consequences and the ripples from that decision wouldn’t have been felt much further t