How to become a better conversationalist 怎样成为一个更好的交谈者.pptx

;All right, I want to see a show of hands: how many of you have unfriended someone on QQ because they said something offensive?;How many of you know at least one person that you avoid because you just dont want to talk to them?; You know, it used to be that in order to have a polite conversation, we just had to follow the advice of Henry Higgins in My Fair Lady: Stick to the weather and your health. So this world that we live in, this world in which every conversation has the potential to devolve（转化） into an argument, its not normal. A study of 10,000 adults found that at this moment, we are more polarized(偏激的), we are more divided(有分歧的), than we ever have been in history. Were less likely to compromise,which means were not listening to each other. ; A conversation requires a balance between talking and listening, and somewhere along the way, we lost that balance. Now, part of that is due to technology. Such as the smartphones that you all either have in your hands or close enough that you could grab them really quickly. Almost most of us, are more likely to text our friends than we are to talk to them face to face.; Weve all had really great conversations. Weve had them before. We know what its like. The kind of conversation where you walk away feeling engaged and inspired, or where you feel like youve made a real connection or youve been perfectly understood. There is no reason why most of your interactions(人际互动) cant be like that.; Many of you have already heard a lot of advice on this, things like look the person in the eye, think of interesting topics to discuss in advance, look, nod and smile to show that youre paying attention,repeat back what you just heard or summarize it. So I want you to forget all of that. It is crap(废话).There is no reason to learn how to show youre paying attention if you are in fact paying attention. 你们中间很多人已经听过无数建议，比如看着对方的眼睛， 提前想好可以讨论的有趣话题，注视，点头并且微笑 来表明你的专注，重复你刚才听到的，