handshakes 跨文化交际中握手的礼仪.doc

Editors note: CNN.com has a business partnership with CareerB, which serves as the exclusive provider of job listings and services to CNN.com. (CareerB) -- Have you ever shaken someones hand and in the same instant, felt every bone in your fingers and palm shatter? Or, even worse, felt like you were shaking the fin on a dead fish? Handshakes have been around since the birth of civilization. In fact, they were originally a way to prove you had no weapons in your hand when meeting someone new (given todays state of affairs, that might not be a bad idea). Nowadays, we use handshakes in meetings, greetings, offering congratulations, closing a business deal or sometimes just to say, Hows it goin? No matter the basis of your handshake, it should become part of your repertoire. Handshakes are a sign of trust and help build strong relationships. Imagine meeting a well-groomed, well-dressed expert for the first time -- but when you shake his/her hand, you feel like youre grabbing an infants finger. Prospective employers said theyre more likely to overlook visible body piercings and tattoos than an ineffective handshake, according to a 2001 survey of human resources professionals. Plus, when you shake hands with people upon meeting, theyre two times more likely to remember you than if you didnt shake hands, according to a study by the Incomm Center for Trade Show Research. The time has come to find out if your grip is powerful, pathetic or just plain bad. Pamela J. Holland and Marjorie Brody, workplace/career experts and co-authors of Help! Was That a Career Limiting Move? say its time to practice. 10 nightmarish handshakes to avoid To evade making a bad first impression, losing a business deal or simply embarrassing yourself, take heed of Holland and Brodys 10 terrible grips to avoid: The macho cowboy... is the almost bone-crunching clasp many businessmen use to shake hands. What are they trying to prove, anyway? Theres no need to demonstrate your physical strength when shak