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How to ask for helpAsking for help can be surprisingly hard, even when its only for some minor difficulty. Doing so is an admission that you arent perfect, which can lead to feelings of weakness or inadequacy. Yet, its a vital life skill. Many of lifes obstacles cant be tackled alone - we simply dont live long enough to learn how to do everything on our own. Whether youre looking for a little assistance with a homework assignment or seeking treatment for a serious disease, asking for help is the first step towards positive progress. Get started with Step 1 below or check out the sections listed above for more specific advice.Part 1 Accepting that you need help1. Tell yourself that you need help.?Often, this first step is the hardest part of the entire process. While it sounds simple, it can be truly difficult to swallow your pride and accept that you cant solve this problem on your own. Tell yourself that you need help - you might even want to try saying it out loud if youre having trouble convincing yourself. If you cant seem to stir yourself to action, try asking yourself the following questions. If you find yourself answering yes, you probably need help.Have I already tried to solve my problem, without success?Am I unsure of how to proceed?Am I worried about how things will turn out? Will bad things happen if I dont solve this problem?2. Figure out what exactly you need help with.?Once youve convinced yourself you need help, you need to pinpoint the exact problem. This will both make it easier to ask another person for help and easier for you to communicate to this person what the problem is. Sometimes this process is remarkably simple - if you cant remember your lines for the school play, its easy to articulate this to the director. However, complex emotional issues can be tricky to pin down. If, for instance, youre unhappy but youre not sure why, you may feel hopeless. Narrow your problems down as best as you can. Ask yourself questions like the following:At wh