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三、Help?Yourself?through?the?Hard?Times 1、Some?years?ago?I?had?what?most?would?call?the?American?Dream:?a?thriving?construction?business,?a?comfortable?home,?two?new?cars?and?a?sailboat.?Moreover,?I?was?happpily?married.?I?had?it?all.几年前，我拥有大多数人称之为美国梦想的东西：一份蒸蒸日上的建筑生意，一个舒适的家，两辆新车和一艘帆船，此外，我婚姻幸福。我拥有这一切。?2、Then?the?stock?market?crashed,?and?suddenly?no?one?was?looking?at?the?houses?I‘d?built.?Months?of?murderous?interest?payment?gobbled?up?my?savings.?I?couldn‘t?make?ends?meet?and?lay?awake?nights?in?a?cold?sweat.?Just?when?I?though?things?couldn‘t?get?worse,?my?wife?announced?that?she?wanted?a?divorce.接着，股市垮了，突然间再没人看我修的那些房子。连续几个月支付要命的利息，耗尽了我的积蓄。我入不敷出，经常彻夜无眠，一身冷汗。就在我认为事情不可能变得更糟的时候，我太太宣布她想离婚。? 3、With?no?idea?what?to?do?next,?I?resolved?literally?to?―sail?off?into?the?sunset,‖?following?the?coastline?from?Connecticut?to?Florida.?But?somewhere?off?New?Jersey?I?turned?due?east,?straight?out?to?sea.?Hours?later,?I?climbed?up?on?the?stern?rail?and?watched?the?dark?Atlantic?slip?beneath?the?hull.?How?easy?it?would?be?to?let?the?water?take?me,?I?thought.无所适从的我决心真正驾船“向夕阳行驶”，沿着海岸线从康涅狄格州驶向佛罗里达州。但是在离新泽西巷的地方，我转向正东方，直接驶往大海。几小时后，我爬上船尾的栏杆，注视着从船体下面滑过的黑沉沉的大西洋海水。我想让海水淹死是多么容易的一件事。? 4、Suddenly?the?boat?plummeted?between?two?swells,?knocking?me?off?balance.?I?grabbed?the?rail,?my?feet?dragging?in?icy?brine,?and?just?managed?to?haul?myself?back?on?board.?Shaken,?I?thought,?what‘s?happening?to?me??I?don‘t?want?to?die.From?that?moment,?I?knew?I?had?to?see?things?through.?My?old?life?was?gone.?Somehow?I‘d?have?to?build?a?new?one.突然，帆船笔直地落在两个巨浪之间，使我失去了平衡。我手抓住栏杆，脚浸在冰冷的海水里，勉强把自己拉回船上。震惊之余，我想，我这是怎么了？我不想死。从那一刻起，我知道我必须看穿万物。我从前的生活一去不复返了，必须得想办法自己重建新的生活。? 5、Everyone,?at?some?point,?will?suffer?a?loss-the?loss?of?loved?ones.?Good?health,?a?job.?―It‘s?your?desert?experience‘-a?time?of?feeling?barren?of?options,?even?hope,‖?explains?Patrick?DdlZoppo,?a?psychologist?and?bereavement?specialist?with?the?Archdiocese?of?New?York.?―The?important?thing?is?not?to?allow?yourself?to?be?stranded?in?the?desert.‖每个人，在某个时刻