在面对生活中的失意时你需要记住的事.docx

在面对生活中的失意时你需要记住的事What You Need to Remember to Deal With Loss in LifeUnfortunately, we all deal with loss in life. No matter what form or severity, coping is rarely easy. The lack of healthy coping measures can exacerbate the pain, especially when the loss is as drastic as a loved one dying.不幸的是,我们都要应对生活中的失意。无论什么形式或严重程度,应对起来都是不简单的。不健康的应对措施可能会加剧疼痛,尤其是当你的损失是和一个你爱的人死去一样悲痛时。You’ll never completely get over your loss. Instead, you’ll adapt, learn, and become a stronger you.你永远不会完全克服你的失意。相反,你会适应,学习,成为一个更强的你。It is difficult to relate to any kind of pain. Even if there are similarities between occurrences, everyone deals with pain differently.它很难与任何一种疼痛联系在一起。即使事件之间有相似之处,每个人处理疼痛的方式也会不同。That’s okay. There’s no “correct” or “appropriate” timetable towards healing. Everyone’s will be different. Friends and family may encourage you to “get over it” by occupying your mind and staying busy. While healthy distraction is positive (as I’ll elaborate on in a bit), there’s no need to rush how you think you should feel. Your feelings are meant to be felt as they occur in the moment and no one else knows them better than you. Cry if you want to. Scream if you want to. Flail your arms madly in the air if you want to.没关系。对治疗的时间表来说没有“正确”或“适当”的。每个人的将是不同的。朋友和家人可能会鼓励你通过占据你的大脑和保持忙碌来“克服”。但是健康是积极的(我会详细说明一点),没有必要逼迫你认为你应该感觉怎样。你的感觉是发生在当下,没有人比你更了解他们。如果你想哭就哭。如果你想要尖叫就尖叫。如果你想在空中疯狂打你的手臂也行。It’s okay to not want to talk about it.不想谈论它没关系。Again, everyone handles pain in a different way. Many experience a “roller coaster” effect of feelings, where your emotions vary from day to day, or even minute to minute. One moment could feel like the healing process is working, the next could feel like a deeper regression into sadness. There will be days that you feel like going out and about with friends and days where you won’t feel like emerging from the pillow fortress in your bedroom. These varying emotions are also okay, but listen to them attentively. There’s no need to pressure yourself into coping in a way you t