双语：夸奖孩子要把握好分寸.doc

双语：夸奖孩子要把握好分寸 本文选自《少儿学英语》的博客，点击查看博客原文 　　A wave of recent research has pointed to the risks of overpraising a child. But for parents, drawing the line between too little praise and too much has become a high-pressure balancing act。 　　近来一些研究指出了过分表扬孩子可能带来的种种风险。不过，对于家长[微博]而言，要在夸奖得太少与太多之间划清界限，这难度不亚于顶着巨大的压力走高空绳索。 　　Cara Greene, a mother of three children ages 1 to 8, is wary of deliberately pumping up her kids egos, for fear of instilling the sense of entitlement she sees in young adults who have been told theyre wonderful and they can do anything. But she also wants them to have healthy self-esteem。 　　家住纽约市的卡拉 格林(Cara Greene)有三个一岁到八岁大的孩子。这位母亲一直很谨慎，不去刻意让孩子的自我膨胀，因为格林担心那样做会让孩子心中滋长出她在那些“一直以来都被告知他们很棒而且他们能做任何事”的年轻人身上所看到的那种自以为是的感觉。不过，她也希望自己的孩子们能够拥有健全的自我认知。 　　We wouldnt be doing our children any favors by overinflating their egos. At the same time, I want them to have the confidence to tackle any challenge that is placed before them, says Ms. Greene, of New York City。 　　格林说：“让孩子的自我过于膨胀对他们来说没有任何好处。而与此同时，我也希望他们拥有足够的自信，能够应付任何他们需要面临的挑战。” 　　Now, psychologists are creating a deeper and more nuanced understanding of self-esteem, which could make it easier for parents to walk that line. Some of the conclusions: It can actually be good for kids to have low self-esteem, at least temporarily. And praise can harm if it disregards the world outside the home. Children who have a realistic岸not inflated岸understanding of how they are seen by others tend to be more resilient。 　　如今，心理学家们对于自我认知的理解越来越深入、也越来越细致，这或许能够让家长们在走这条高空绳索的时候轻松一点。其中的一些结论如下：孩子的自我认可程度较低实际上有可能是一件好事，至少短时期的低认可度会是如此。而对孩子的褒扬如果没有考虑到家庭以外的环境因素，则有可能会对孩子有害。孩子若能对于他人对自己的看法有一个现实──而非夸大──的理解，则往往能够更好地适应外界环境。 　　In the past, many parents and educators believed that high self-esteem predicted happiness and success, and that it could be instilled in kids simply by doling out trophies and praise. But researchers have since found self-esteem doesnt predict these outcomes. High self-esteem is partly the result of good performance, rather than the cause