高校能人士的七习惯2.ppt

Habit 1: Be Proactive Seven Habits of Highly Effective People Proactively Defined PROACTIVITY = Human beings are responsible for our own behavior! Our behavior is a function of our decisions, not our conditions. We have the initiative and responsibility to make things happen. RESPONSIBILITY: “Response – ability” Ability to choose your response. Proactive Vs. Reactive Proactive People Do not Blame anyone or anything. Behavior is a product of their conscious choice, based on values. They carry their whether with them. They are still influenced by external stimulus – but their response is value based choice or response. Reactive People Blame circumstances, conditions conditioning. Behavior is a product of their conditions, based on feelings. If whether is good, they feel good, if it is bad, they feel bad. Reactive people build their lives around others emotions. No One Can Hurt You Without Your Consent Freedom to Choose It is not what happens to us, but our responses to what happens to us that hurts us. 3 Central Values – Victor Frankl The Experiential: that which happens to us The Creative: that which we bring into existence The Attitudinal: Our response in difficult situations What matters most is how we respond to what we experience in life! Taking the Initiative: Act or Be Acted Upon Our basic nature is to act, and not be acted upon Use your R and I – Resourcefulness and Initiative Proactivity: 5000+ % difference in effectiveness Listening to Our Language Reactive Language Proactive Language There is nothing I can do Let’s look at our alternatives That’s just the way I am I can choose a different approach He makes me so mad I control my own feelings They won’t allow that I can create an effective presentation I have to do that I will chose an effective response I can’t I choose I must I prefer If only I will Serenity Prayer Lord, give me the courage to change the things which can and ought to be changed, the serenity to accept the thing